12 weeks Post Partum.

I’ve had a few friends bring up the, ‘Why haven’t you blogged lately?’ question, so I thought I’d oblige them!

Here we are, 12 weeks into the life of my beautiful boy. Watching him grow, change & learn new skills has already been so rewarding!

His first smile, around 6 weeks or so, brought me the the affirmation that I was needing as a tired new mum. “My baby is happy, and he loves me!”.

No one tells you that for the first while, you can start to feel like a frumpy 24/7 feeding trough, who does nothing but laundry, diaper changes and wakes in the wee hours of the morning. Having the appreciation come from your baby in the simple form of a smile, is such a welcoming sight!

I have to admit, from what I’m learning/hearing from other moms, we were blessed with a pretty easy going babe. He gained a lot of weight very easily early on, we had breastfeeding down pat/pain free within a week, and he really only cried during a diaper change here & there. For the past week and a bit, he’s been sleeping minimum 6, maximum 9 hrs through the night. Needless to say, I’m taking full advantage of the sleep now, because I’m aware at how quickly things can change!!

My biggest struggle through all of this so far is my post-partum body. I gained upwards of 50lbs during my pregnancy, and most of it in my belly. That’s clearly evident now, as it seems a lot if that weight decided to stay in my belly :) I’m still 20lbs away from pre-pregnancy weight, and I’m sure it will take a lot more work/time to see any of it leave! & since I’m exclusively breastfeeding, dieting is not an option (& probably not a good idea anyway for a girl who used to have an eating disorder).

I actually had a lot more typed out regarding my ‘post-partum body problems’. I had to delete it, when I thought of how if that’s all I have to complain about, I’m doing pretty darn good. Especially when I remember other moms I know of, struggling much more than I am.

I often think of those other moms, who didn’t come home from the hospital with a healthy baby, or even a baby at all. My heart breaks for them, and it reminds me to never take any minute I have with River for granted.

For those of us living fairly normal lives, there can be so much to complain about, if you choose to. You can also choose to look at problems as blessings, making you more aware of areas in your life that need improvement, and thanking God for bringing it to light.

I can get pretty depressed thinking about the way I look now, or instead I can do 50 squats with my 15lb baby, or go outside for a walk while wearing him in one of our pretty wraps.

God is teaching me perspective through my husband, who helps me see things differently when I choose to complain.

Eventually, I’ll start to look like my old self again. Right now, I have a beautiful, happy & healthy baby, and I thank God for him every day.

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12 weeks Post Partum.

+1 month in!

Wow, time flies when you’re having fun!

Okay, I can’t lie.  It hasn’t been all fun.  In fact, my selfishness has never been so out in the open as it has been since we’ve been married.  Our true colours are shining through.  Not that we didn’t see each others flaws during the dating/engaged stages of our relationship, but wow — living together, and being together every single day — will inevitably show you all truths of who you really are.

If you’re part of my generation, you’ve most likely seen the movie ‘The Neverending Story’ (and if you haven’t, please do so! You won’t be disappointed!).  While talking with a special friend about the first year of marriage recently, a scene from that movie came into my mind.  When Atreyu gets to one of the gates, that he must pass in order to succeed in his mission — the gate that is the mirror, that shows men their true selves.  In the movie, it is told that most men run away screaming, terrified of their horrible selfish nature.  I won’t give away what happens to Atreyu… but this image resonated with me when it comes to being newly married.

It’s like looking into this mirror.  You can either accept what you see, and take the necessary steps to start making changes in your behaviour in order to benefit someone other than yourself, or you can run away, screaming (aka, blame someone other than yourself).

David and I have an interesting arrangement, as he mostly works from home, and when I am not flying, I’m home too.  So since I’ve been off work until recently, we have been home together, every day and night.  Let’s just say we’re learning a lot about each other!

The most amazing thing though, is realizing how much we truly love each other.  How much we’re willing to sacrifice, and give up for the sake of the other.  How imperfect we are, and how badly we need God in our lives and marriage.

I am thankful for that.

I learned recently, that God didn’t design marriage to make you happy, rather He designed marriage to make you Holy.  I really liked that.  If you break it down, it means that marriage is designed to make you depend more on Him and build your relationship with Him, because you won’t be able to be rid of all of your selfishness just on your own (and if you can, well, kudos to you! But I sure can’t!).  Now this doesn’t mean that you can’t have a happy marriage, it means that if you seek Him first, happiness will filter through after the fact.  When you seek God, your desire to be like Him inevitably grows, and therefore your desire to serve grows.  The more you serve, the happier you’ll be (well, that’s what I’m going with for now at least!).  Personally, from my small amount of experience, when I am serving my husband, he responds with a great amount of love for me.  Why wouldn’t I want that?

I am happy to be in a position where my character is being challenged daily.  If my character isn’t growing, then as far as I see it, my life isn’t going anywhere soon.

All in all, I really have nothing to complain about.  I am blessed with an amazingly generous, loving and forgiving husband, a steady job (that I enjoy!), and a beautiful house to call our home.  Our families love and care for us, and we have the freedom to choose our futures.

Our future is beautiful.

+1 month in!

Our Nest (so far!)

David and I have been very blessed with the opportunity to be home owners, and have a house to move into for day 1 of our marriage (which, by the way is only 64 days away!!).

Not only do we have the blessing of a cosy roof over our heads, but we also have 5 very handy, hard working, and creative men to help make it a little more personalized (David, his father, two brothers and brother-in-law).  David’s father has a large hand in the creativity and production, and I could not be more appreciative or happy with the decisions he’s made to make the house look the way it does thus far.  Him and David have been busy putting their heads together to come up with many many great home improvement idea’s, and it just keeps on going!  My step father Bob, who went to heaven in 2006, was a contractor, and built the house my mother and I still live in.  It was always the best thing to have a handy guy around, even if just to fix things.  The creative and independent portion is icing on the already delicious cake!  It is for these reasons (plus many more) that I am so thankful to be marrying into this family.

Since we’ve received the keys to the house at the end of March, I haven’t been able to make too many visits, since it’s in Hamilton, I’m in Guelph, and I am working a whole lot!  Also, David and I decided that it just made sense if I were to be assigned all the wedding tasks, and he could take care of the house tasks.  It’s a great deal if I may say so myself!

However, yesterday I was feeling a little lonely, and a bit annoyed with the wedding planning — I needed a break, and some time with my future husband.  David told me they were starting to paint the tin siding on the house, so I jumped at the chance to help!  I’m definitely not one for a lot of hard labour, but painting I can do!  I quickly got myself ready to go, and made my way over (of course however, with a quick stop to pick up a 2L of chocolate milk, and 5 junior bacon cheeseburgers for the guys!).

I was sure to bring my camera so that I could finally capture all the changes that were going on.  I was so impressed to see everything!  Tree’s moved from here to there, hedges gone, new plants, interlock patio and pathway, shelving moved, door installed, back deck bigger, new dry wall…. the list is endless!

To start things off, we have the living room, as we saw it when we first got our keys.  Changes to be made: new paint, new curtains, take down the shelving, and get rid of the carpet!

Here is the living room today: Shelves gone (but being used elsewhere!), paint drywalled, sanded, almost ready for painting, curtains gone.  Also you can see the new oven that will go in the basement apartment when the flooring is done.

This is the basement as we first saw it. Changes to be made: new flooring (take out carpet and vinyl), new cupboards and create a separate entrance for a renter.

Below is the basement today: The new door/exit gives it so much more light! David took the shelving that was originally on the wall in the living room, and used the wood to make a new shelving unit in the tenants sleeping area. It also creates a wall that wasn’t there, so that the bedroom and the kitchen are now more separate. The boxes on the floor contain the new basement tile!

Below is the basement from the kitchen angle, looking into the bedroom.  I didn’t take a picture of it, but there used to be a door on the right wall (according to this photo), that led into the common area, and access to upstairs.  It no longer exists, which makes the apartment more private, and gives us our own basement space (most likely being used for storage).

Below you see the laundry room on the left, the door to the apartment bathroom in the middle, and the stairs leading up from the basement on the right. Through the bathroom is the only access the tenant will have to our house, in order to use the laundry. There also used to be wall hiding the stairs, which is now evidently gone, in order to open up more space.

Below is our backyard as we first saw it! (*Something to note: our house is on a corner, so where we lack in backyard, we gain in side yard! Unfortunately I don’t have a photo of the side yard for you yet!) The changes that have been made so far: deck is painted and slightly larger so that the stairs don’t walk straight into the new basement entrance, the black fence is gone, the lamp post at the verrrrry back of this photo has been moved to the front side garden, and the green siding/awning has been painted (phewf!).

Below is the view of the backyard from the other angle (I didn’t take one that matches the above photo, and yes, that’s me helping out!).  You can see the deck is painted, and the green colour of the siding is now charcoal.Above you see the first angle of our beautiful walk out! Below is another angle; eventually there will be railings around the edges (safety first!).  David’s dad made the smart decision of removing the black railing from the front walk way, and so we’ll be able to use them here instead.

Below you see our new patio! Unfortunately I don’t have a before photo for this, but originally it was a car port, that eventually was turned into a patio, but was still black pavement with car oil stains when we got it.  David’s dad had the brilliant idea of getting rid of  the debris from the walkout, by laying it under interlock brick.  Now we have a more aesthetically pleasing patio! This picture was taken before we painted the green tin (the ceiling) with the charcoal colour.  The wooden steps are also new!

Then you can see (above) that we painted the ceiling, and posts.

The photo above shows a bit of the difference from the green to the charcoal, and you can see our new side garden and trees, that help to kind of take attention away from the yellow hydro poles. We had to stop painting as it had started raining.

Below is another view of the side garden, the new placement of the light post, and the new walkway to get to the apartment/backyard.  You can also see the new rock at the end of the driveway — it used to be just wood.

The last two pictures below are a before and during photo of the house from the front.  Looking forward to doing another post of more after photos!  Also that is when I will include more photos of the interior!  Have to get a lot of painting done before that happens! Thanks for reading! Excited to have everyone over for a patio dinner sometime!

Our Nest (so far!)

Changin’

Speaking of changing… I keep changing the layout of this blog.  It probably won’t stop for awhile… Sometimes I can be a bit of a perfectionist and like things to be just the way I like them!  I wasn’t happy with the way my photos were laid out in the last one… and I can’t say I really like the bright yellow on the right side there… but we’ll see!

Tomorrow is my last day of work, in my current position with the company I work for.  I am a blessed little girl and I’ve had the pleasure of working for WestJet at YVR for the past year!  As much as I’ve enjoyed it, I always had a slightly bigger picture in mind. That picture was to be a flight attendant!  And, praise the Lord, I have been hired on as an FA starting Oct. 24th!  That is, after I pass the 5 weeks training program!

I’ve wanted to be a flight attendant for some time now.  I have a journal from the summer of 2008, where I first wrote that I specifically wanted to be a WestJet flight attendant.  It’s been a long process, and a lot of effort, but I am finally getting there!

Once I finish my training successfully (note my positive mindset!), I will be able to ‘port’ (or, ‘start my day’) out of Toronto, after approximately 2-3 months.  That means I am living in Calgary until then!  However, I am going to be living with Kendra, one of my bridesmaids!!  She has so graciously offered a room for me, since she knows I would have just been alone in Vancouver, commuting to Calgary, and she was missing the Ontario crowd too a bit!

You see, ever since David and I have been out west, we’ve always known we’d settle in Ontario.  It was just a matter of ‘when’.  He has been there since this past May, and we’ve been battling (successfully!) long distance since then.  It’s not something new to us, as I spent almost the first year of our relationship in Banff, while he was still in Ontario.

Which brings me to my next piece; David’s mother AND sister are both flight attendants.  He has been blessed with flight benefits his entire life!  Cute story to note, one of his friends told me a long time ago that in high school, David had mentioned he wanted to marry a flight attendant — so as to not lose his precious flight benefits!  What a lucky guy!  (*Don’t worry — I promise he loves me for more than just the flight benefits!)

So, it’s a little bittersweet to be leaving (officially next Tuesday!), but it’s been a long time coming, and I can’t wait to be back with my family in Ontario, and actually be able to take part in every family gathering and get-together!  Also note; when my training is done, I can OFFICIALLY start my wedding planning!!!  That means dress shopping and decor making!!

If you’re the praying type, save a few for me and my car as we drive across the mountain range!

-Mrs. Schuurman-to-be

Changin’